Do you want your little one to be happy and find success throughout their life? Do you feel the drive to tour and enroll your child in the top schools in your city in order to get them into a good university one day? Do you think your child will be at a disadvantage if they are not involved in an assortment of activities and sports? If you answered yes to most or even some of these questions, then you may have already fallen prey to one of the sad untruths in raising children today:
Academics = Success. It’s just not that simple!
When we focus on the most rigorous school, the right activities, and the college we want our “little Einstein” to attend, we miss a huge opportunity for our children on so many different levels. Researchers have found that one of the key factors to success in a young child’s educational setting is the amount of time they are allotted to play. So when thinking about the type of preschool setting you want for your child, you really have two very different options: Play-based and skill-based schools. Through play, kids learn to regulate conflict, solve problems, become resilient, delay gratification, and take turns! These are the skills our children need most to be successful in life. Evidence has shown that play-based schools support our children’s growth 1) socially, 2) emotionally, and 3) academically.
#1 On a social level, play-based preschools focus on helping children learn the skills they need to be a good friend and work as a group member through collaboration, learning to follow rules, use empathy, take turns, and self-regulate. These skills help children learn the rules of social interaction that will, in turn, help them in all their relationships throughout life. Children in play-based settings get many opportunities to practice experiencing their friends' points of view by working through conflicts about space, materials, and rules with support.
#2 Academically, play promotes language, literacy, and mathematical thinking. Research has shown that kids who frequently engage in play, particularly socio-dramatic play, show an increase in the total number of words used, the length of their sentences, and the complexity of their speech. Play also helps children understand the relationships between things, which helps them develop the type of reasoning that aids in mathematical performance.
Beyond basic academics, play also helps build the skills of attention and concentration, which are critical to success in both the academic and professional worlds. In a play-based preschool setting, children have more opportunities to develop impulse control, which is highly linked to future school success. Numerous studies have shown that there is a clear relationship between make-believe play and self-control and gratification.
#3 Play also provides an outlet for expressing emotion for young children. Strong emotions, especially frustration, fear, and anxiety, can be overwhelming for children to process. Play provides children an outlet to voice those overwhelming feelings. In play-based preschool settings, teachers provide children with the space to explore their feelings, what caused them, and how to best express them in a positive, safe, and healthy way. A child’s ability to properly express emotions is an important communication tool, providing peers with information about our child’s intentions. The skill of emotional expression is an important part of peer acceptance, and the ability to regulate emotions is essential to their capability to interact with others.
So when you are thinking about the “right” school for your child this year, please don’t get caught up in all the hype about your child needing to be able to read and write before kindergarten. That is just baloney! There are many choices when selecting a preschool for your child, and the presence of play is not to be written off but highly valued. When children use their imagination in play, it fosters creativity and creative thinking skills, and they perform better at school tasks and develop a problem-solving approach to learning. Maybe consider what some of the greatest minds have said about play, chew on it for a while, and then decide your position on selecting a school this next year.
“Play is the work of the child.” – Maria Montessori
“Play is the highest form of research.” – Albert Einstein
“It is a happy talent to know how to play.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Do not keep children to their studies by compulsion but by play.” – Plato
“Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.” - Fred Rogers
We hope the value and benefits of a play-based school are now clearer. If you want to add more play to your child’s daily life, this wonderful article offers helpful insights and practical ideas!